Showing posts with label parenthood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenthood. Show all posts

Saturday, November 12, 2011

The Huhlets Have Taken My Brain cells

It started in 2007 when I was pregnant with Jimmy.  I started forgetting things and becoming absent-minded.      Appointments were forgotten, important and expensive things were thrown away by accident… Pete couldn’t recognize me because I was not my usual on-the-ball self.  I called it “mommy brain” attributing it to the physical, emotional and mental changes that took place as I had given birth to our children (to be referred to as Huhlets). 

One of the beauties of parenthood is that it’s changed me in ways I didn’t expect.  I used to be a perfectionist – I wanted and expected myself to do things perfectly all the time.  I was a good kid growing up and never got in trouble.   If I made a mistake at work, I’d be disappointed in myself for days.  I tried my darnedest to never do anything wrong because I thought that was the only way that I’d deserve good things and to be loved.   It’s a ridiculous way of thinking and I needed to change.  Not only for my own sanity but I’d never want the Huhlets to feel like they have to be perfect and can’t make a mistake. 

Having kids has rearranged my priorities.  I’ve had to let go of trying to be perfect.  At first it was frustrating not being able to do it all but now I find it kind of liberating.  Now all of my efforts go toward doing things for them and everything else comes second.   I may forget to send out a birthday card or the dishes might sit for a day but the Huhlets are always clean, fed and loved.

Here are a couple of funny examples of my mommy brain.

One time right after Ashley was born, I was in a rush to take Jimmy to school.  When we were walking to his class, I realized I had my shorts on backwards.  (they were pull on maternity shorts so there were no buttons)  

Another time we were again, in a rush to leave the house to go to a 4th of July party.  As we were driving to the party, I look down and realize I didn’t have shoes on but house slippers.
my slippers were not as cute as these
I know I’m not the only one.  We went to our pediatrician (who is also a friend) who has two kids of her own.  She had on two different color shoes that day…

I’d love to hear what kinds of wacky things you’ve done as a result of “mommy brain” so please add it as a comment here.  If you are not a mommy and have done wacky things like this, I’d love to hear that too!